Chance It?

Unless you've been living under a rock, on a deserted island for the past few days, everyone is talking about Tiger Woods and his infidelities. While I am not at all surprised that Tiger was caught cheating, or that he was cheating at all; I was a little appalled by the number of partners who have come forward. Now while it is indecent, and utterly disgusting to think of how wreckless and irresponsibly he behaved, would it not be less so if there were only two women involved. The general consensus amongst both men and women discussing this tragedy of a story is that Tiger's "transgressions" are made worse by that fact that the number of partners has increased into the double digits. Talk show host, Wendy Williams, commented earlier today that yesterday she felt like Elin Woods should stay for the duration of time specified in the couples updated prenup and collect her money. Today, however, since more women have come forward with allegations, she feels that without a doubt Tiger's wife, Elin should leave him. I ask myself why should it matter if it were one woman or twenty. That's like saying if a man punches you in the throat once, it's understandable if the woman stays, but if he punches you ten times, it's definitely time to heave hoe. Disrespect and dishonesty should not measured in terms of quantity, but quality. A large part of the reason that my estranged husband and I are separated and divorcing is because of domestic violence. I stayed with him for while after the incident for several unjustifiable reasons, but in the end I was not able to co-exist with him safely, comfortably, and lovingly as a wife, so I left. I can't count how many people questioned my decision to leave on the basis that he hadn't done anything like that since the initial assault. Was I supposed to sit around and ignorantly wait for it to happen again? Women have come a long way in America, but clearly, we need to reasses our values in relationships with men, and more importantly as those values relate to marriage. The concept of a second chance was birthed through America's womb, but when it comes to serious life circumstances, and relationships between men and women, second chances are often overrated, and undeserved.